I’m either a control freak looking over at the Free Spirited people and at times experience jealousy–
…or I am like, “Nope–not today,” bearing down with all my strength, shoving Control aside to usher Free Spirit to the front. Most days I feel like half and half creamer, unsure which I am–so I try to equally tend to both needs–trying my darndest not to offend either side.
Whew. It wears me out.
Honestly, Free Spirit really doesn’t worry about what others think–and this partly why Control gets so jealous of her.
The days I let Free Spirit take me by the hand–I find myself smirking back at Control, nipping at my heels.
Run Forest, Run!
Because of this back and forth ensuing battle, I was grateful to read a book like It’s All Under Control.
~A note from Meg~
As I prepared to write a semi-lengthy post about my messy struggle–I bumped into a writer-friend’s post.
Her words summoned the tears as I nodded and clutched my chest.
I was given permission to share her story with you today.
The cat photo captures the equivalent of my famous nose flare which I often practice, yet “suck it up–buttercup style,” and then understand why so many in leadership want to headbutt a wall. It gets lonely, and pretty soon–all our tugging leaves our boots strapless.
We need permission to get the toxins out in the open so we can seek help, healing, and change.
I also encourage you to read Kimberly’s post where she writes about “rehearsing her anxieties.”
If you need HOPE in the form a friend today-read Lesley’s post below + go find a trusted friend in person to talk with.
Don’t hold the frustrations inside. It’s unhealthy! #FromExperienceIWrite
When You’re Made to Believe Everything Depends on You
Written by Lesley, www.lifeinthespaciousplace.wordpress.com
“I’m not worried. I know you’ll make it happen.”
When these words were said to me recently, I knew they were meant as a compliment, but something about them upset me. I had just expressed concern over the magnitude of a task I had taken on- something I absolutely felt called to, but which was going to demand a significant amount of time and effort. I had been hoping for some help in reducing other responsibilities to allow for this, but it seemed that was considered unnecessary. I was meant to do it all. I was meant to “make it happen.”
And the frustrating thing is: I know I will. If I have committed to something, if I have a deadline, if someone is depending on me, I will make it happen. I’ll do what it takes.
I sometimes wish that being responsible and reliable didn’t mean so much pressure and such high expectations all the time, but I also know a lot of it is my own fault because I like to be in control. It’s far too easy to take on responsibility for everyone and everything, and to feel like it all depends on me, believing that if I don’t do it, it won’t be done (at least not properly).
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My Goodreads review:
“The best thing about this book is that it is filled with relatable experiences and belly-rumbling humor. I can’t get enough of Jennifer’s words–every book she’s written has taken me on a personal journey in simple steps, but this one is her best yet. I recommend this book to any woman. I dare you to give it just one chapter and see if you can’t keep going.”
– Meghan Weyerbacher
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