As we age, time seems to go by faster and faster.
I live right down the road from my nephew. One week went by where we didn’t see each other. The next time my eyes landed on this blond haired, blue eyes Precious Moments look alike…I knew he grew an inch!
This life we live is a gift. Why do we insist on trying to rush through it? I hear myself saying, “C’mon” way too much. I find myself thinking, “Why won’t they just hurry up?”
Why do I think this way if I myself don’t like to be rushed?
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When the table is set and we sit down for dinner, my heart hurts when it seems like everyone just wants to get done and go do. My heart not only hurts because everyone else seems to feel this way, but many times I do too.
There’s no doubt about it, starting up a business is hard work and it can be difficult to navigate new territory. More than once I have found myself contemplating the next thing I could be getting done, while sitting at the dinner table chewing my morsel.
It truly is more challenging to turn off the task-flow than I ever thought it would be.
Because I am often tempted to run faster than God intended my little legs to go, I have to be super intentional about setting limits and healthy boundaries. Hence the mountain lake picture.
Our family is headed to a lake soon. We never really did much of this for our whole 13 years of marriage. Honestly, we are both workaholics.
He loves to provide, I love to create. But we need to get away. We need to slow our pace. We want to drink in this moment we are in. The kids are growing up so fast.
I uninstalled Twitter (again) recently from my phone, but that only helped somewhat. It helped me to see that I can’t blame social media on my rush-rush, reply-reply, super-woman-wanna-be tendencies.
When Twitter wasn’t at arm’s length and my Energizer Battery mode still continued, I realized it was a rooted thing. And maybe God made me to be a snap-to-it kinda gal. That can be a blessing!
But something I am discovering is that no matter where we are in life, we can always learn something. In this season, I am learning how to kill the craving of more and fast.
If I can’t blame social media and the culture, whose fault is it that I am in such a hurry?
When Twitter wasn’t at arm’s length and my Energizer Bunny® battery mode still continued, I realized it was a rooted thing. And maybe God made me to be a snap-to-it kinda gal for a reason. That can be a blessing!
But something I am discovering is that no matter where we are in life, we can always learn something. In this season, I am learning how to curb the craving of the crazy fast factory.
Because I want to live in a way that lines up with what I believe. I don’t want to live one way and wish I could live the way I really want to, only in my head.
That isn’t right and it won’t ever fulfill.
God is teaching me how to live my values one slow step at a time.
Kicking Hurried Habits To The Curb
We can change our hurried habits and experience the value of slow living. Changing our daily pace can be its own struggle. With all the responsibilities our shoulders it can be hard to know where to begin.
Like any other habit that is formed, it is going to take some time.
When we are tempted to pile on another to-do or when we feel like our buckets are already tipping over as it is, we can respond these ways to help us make new habits rooted in slow & intentional living:
- Stop and take a deep breath. Most decisions we think need to be made ASAP – really don’t. We can usually afford to take some time (even a short time) to think before jumping or answering.
- Take a step back. Don’t assume things about a situation or about people. Sometimes we think we are the only ones for the job, but God has filled the Earth with people. We can pray for helpers and don’t always have to be the answer. Praying is always an answer!
- Listen. Peace leads, pressure pushes. Do you hear God whispering or do you hear other voices crowding and demanding?
- Use the Margin Guide. Determine where you stand right now. Facing today’s struggle will help for a better tomorrow. Ignoring our reality (an over-packed schedule, for example) can remain unresolved by never confronting it.
- Read books. Keeping reading a priority in my life always brings me back to my roots. It reminds me to take time to slow down. It helps me not hurry in those moments but rather to soak it all up. Then, I want more of that and so reading becomes a staple element to slow-living habit-forming. Plus it helps you grow!
Whispers of Rest By Bonnie Gray
[ My book review + personal experience ]
One book that is helping to regain some ground and reminding me that margin is so vital to my family, is Whispers of Rest by Bonnie Gray.
The things that help us to thrive are not selfish, rather required.2
How can we live and give if we ourselves are not feeding our own bodies and spirits?
We can only give what we have, but if our own tanks are running on empty -it will be that much more difficult to give and serve in a way that doesn’t come off as “obligated” or “wheel-spinning.”
If you are a parent, a business owner, a worker, or serve somewhere – you know all too well the importance of rest. When we feel depleted, most of us just want a getaway or a hibernation marathon.
Sometimes we want a slow walk with a friend, to verbalize our stresses and get refueled with genuine encouragement. That is what Bonnie’s book is for the soul.
Reading this book daily has honestly brought a deeper rest into my life than any binge-watching could ever do. Though a tv escape can be fun from time to time, there’s always the hurried life still waiting after you click it off.
Choosing to take a step back from the ways of the world to hear God’s whispers to us better, is a long term investment – not only short time like so many of the things we try to fill up on give.
And though no book takes place of the Bible, following through with the questions in each daily challenge is a helpful way to keep myself accountable.
It would be more fun with another person to walk through it alongside. I think Bonnie even recommends this. Hey, think I am going to get off here and call my friend….talk to ya soon!
If you purchase the book, feel free to drop a note here or at Bonnie’s place and let her know how it touched your life.
Written with art & soul, for the heart & soul, Whispers of Rest is like a peaceful walk with a friend. You will be refreshed. Bonnie’s well written and hearty devotional is now a favorite of mine. I am a mom who wears many hats and so I appreciate how each devotional is broken down into bite-sized sections. They are so well proportioned I have gone back and reread each day twice to really soak it up. This book would make a great gift for someone who needs to let themselves take a step back from the everyday hustle and bustle – to remember we were ultimately created for relationship with God. If you ever felt you needed permission before, to slow down and take stock of the important matters of the heart & soul, this is it. You won’t read this and walk away without knowing how much God loves you. – I received this book in exchange for my honest review.