I was trying not to be in a rush to finish the kid’s homework, so I said a prayer and what finally felt like hours later, we finished.
My hands were like jazz and I wanted to get to work at my computer, writing down parts of my book that had come to me.
Walking by the kitchen I remembered the dishes needed to be done. This was before we implemented our new tag-team method where the kids split putting the clean dishes away while I volunteered to load the yuckies.
This pre-helper-dish-cleaning era in our house may sound bad, but it has taken a while for us to find our groove. What works for some doesn’t work for everyone.
Today was just an ordinary day. But me and that sink had a stare down. It won.
But just as I started in, another line popped into my head and I knew I just couldn’t let this one go. Darting to the back of the house to grab my notebook and pen. When I flipped it open to my previous notes, I realized my youngest must have decided to add her artwork to the mix.
Laughing, I flipped the page over and scribbled down my thoughts.
Was that syrup on that page?
Ugh. Life. Beautiful, messy.
Two Things I Have Learned From Being A Writer Mom
#1 Recruit helpers.
It is okay to admit we can’t do it all. I tried this and about went nuts. Yeah it has been partially due to the slow death of perfectionism, but the other part I think stems from assuming wrongly that my kids could not or would not ______. My peacemaker tendencies avoids conflict at many costs. I am learning!
We have now been living this tag-team method out for a year and it has allowed our family to thrive so much. Each kid automatically knows what they are to do. And each week the chores get swapped so there’s no burn out.
#2 Accept how you write best + do it
For about a year now I have tried applying various method’s of writing advice to my own life. The best way I have learned to move forward is simply to let myself write even when life doesn’t look glittery.
I do have a routine butt-in-chair time, but not all my lines come to me in those moments. In fact, they usually don’t. I think my creativity is allergic to technology or something. At least as far as book-writing is concerned.
So the day that I hated writing nothing down more than I hated choppy infrequent one-liners for my chapters was the day I began to see words build up in my document. Finally.
PS: I tried writing a chapter straight through but for nonfiction, it didn’t feel authentic to me. It was grueling, as if I was making stuff up just to fill up the page. So like I said, do what works for you. Not a guru or a social media rock star. YOU.
Writing + Chores. A fun juggle.
I tend to gravitate toward Carolina Cisneros’ article about being a writer on the go. Since I work from home, I had never pictured myself in this department of writers. Now that my kids are in school and I can see first hand how it feels to have the day before me (writing + house responsibilities) in this new light, I can clearly see on-the-go tips are just what I need.
Now I keep paper nearby when I am cleaning or working on other things. Anytime I am in the car or at the store, I just push a button and start recording notes. At the very least, I do not assume I will remember what I want to write. That almost never happens!
What about you? Are you a writer mom too? If you haven’t grabbed a copy of Jeff Goin’s book, You Are A Writer — I highly recommend it.
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