I am not made up of whatever stealth is made of. I would describe myself more of a perfectly roasted s’more which is lightly toasted on the outside and mushy on the inside. Unless you are my son who delights in lighting his on fire right out the gate.
I look like I can handle a lot but in reality I fold easily when I hit a tipping poin so I try to avoid getting to that point. We live in real life though, so it isn’t picture perfect, but I learned something that has helped me over the course of the last few years.
It’s an important lesson because I have a little bucket. Do you know about buckets? Do you have a bucket too? We all do and they are all different shapes and sizes.
Some of us can hold lots, some of us, a little less. Some people prefer to refer to the buckets as “plates” but the picture of a bucket holding more than it was made to carry (overflowing, tipping..) works well for me here.
How “Keeping Up” With “Urgent” Things Tipped My Bucket Over
For a long time (and even now I find myself tempted to do it) I would get caught in an endless cycle of signing on for too much. Like actually more than I could physically handle-too-much.
Long ago I learned my limits. Do I respect those limits? Most days, youbetcha. Even still, I have found myself getting sucked back into the never-ending vortex of social media. Namely the one that is steered by a little blue bird.
This is what happens when I start to veer. When I veer, it is a subtle thing, hence the severity of it. I become distracted just a little and before I know it, my inner guts are feeling “off” and as I look back on the past weeks–I see that I veered from the course.
Then I face palm, ask for help from my Father, and start to make the trek back.
I thought I had put this Twitter addiction to rest. Somewhere after overcoming it, relaunching, and getting my game-face on — I picked it back up.
Ouch and bleh. And another face palm.
In her book, Disciplines of the Beautiful Woman, Ann Ortlund talks about how many of the things we think are urgent, actually aren’t. I never realized how my brain had categorized e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g as urgent, for most of my life.
The Day I Quit Twittering Full-Time
It started when I reinstalled Twitter back on my phone. I had uninstalled the app about a year prior because of overload issues and I wanted to refocus. I thought I could trust myself so I tried it again but it looks like it’s time for different strategy.
Because deleting it is like never allowing myself to have a doughnut. Then I start to think doughnuts are evil, and that’s just weird. Back to Twitter…
The New Twitter Strategy & Two Questions That Keep My Little Bucket From Tipping
A few months ago when listening to a Compel teaching, a leader talked about setting aside 30 minutes a day for social media. I nodded my head in agreement because this was the method I had been using and it was really helping me.
“Time” isn’t the only dilemma though.
What about when it comes down to following every person back who follows you? Y’all. It is truly time-consuming. Just thinking about following back a group of folks everyday makes what little eyebrows I have remaining, go up.
People are awesome. All of you bless me so much. But following back every person everyday in order to keep up is a full-time job by itself.
I realize many bloggers batch their tasks, and I do this now too with a few things, but I keep asking myself, “Do I WANT this to even BE a thing?” If it is, I can ask myself, “Is this urgent?”
These two questions can save me from the kind of anxiety that is self-inflicted. The kind that I cause from lack of thorough planning and thinking it through.
They can help my day run better, because I am not trying to do it all – especially the things that send me over the edge. The things that feel required but with no real proof: I know of many published authors who do not follow back followers, simply because they are called to write.
What We Focus On Will Be The Thing That Grows
Many times when someone suggests something or we see bloggers posting, “How to ______,” it can be easy to assume everyone should do those things if they want to be successful.
Each of us is on a unique journey and we can learn from one another. What one person feels they need to do in their job, may not be what another person feels nudged to do.
Sometimes we are nudged to put more time and effort into something we already dislike. For me that is sharing my own work. But right now, despite the fact I don’t like to do this, I am also not feeling super led to focus on that part.
One day soon when I am, I will hopefully be prayed up and determined to share my work consistently and without guilt. For now, I want to focus on creating something worth sharing. – Just getting my toe wet with sharing my posts is good for me right now.
If you are Twittering full-time and you love it and it is blessing you and others, keep it up. If this is where your focus needs to be, go for it! If you are following back everyone out of obligation but feeling rather stressed about it, maybe you can cut back to.
Stand your bucket upright, create healthy boundaries – and let’s do this thing. – Tweet
(Oh, and I may have hinted that I now have more time to prune my rose bushes!)
Wherever we are called to, we don’t have to feel obligated to copy others, compete, or kill ourselves over. We can participate in the wonderful things God has given to mankind within healthy and good limits that bless instead of drain. Or tip, should I say. It’s finding that balance that is the challenge, but God cares about this too. My God cares. He is a carer by nature. Ask him to help you find your healthy boundaries with social media. Let me know how your journey with it has been.
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