If I’m not careful, I will look into today’s eyes and find a way to get ahead instead of seeing the many opportunities to just “be” a blessing. I’ll argue mentally tooth and nail with myself that more is better, but then I come to and remember that is not usually the case.
I think being productive is actually a great thing, but lately I have started asking myself different questions such as, “Is how I am being right now reflecting well on my kids?” and, “Should I being doing this now?“
I want to focus on the first question today. I wrote about the second question in the Writing from Rest series which is being updated a bit – woot woot!
Maybe it all feels so extreme because the kids are with me 24/7 but this is my current reality and therefore I believe it is an issue I must address on a regular basis. Because they see me constantly.
When Productivity Becomes the Problem
I needed to do some photo editing for my blog and the kids who were done with their homework were let out of the sheep gate to go play in freedom. No, there’s not really a sheep gate, but when they run out the door it reminds me of creatures excited to go roll in the grass.
Putting on my headphones I searched for a podcast. A particular topic came to mind so I clicked around and found one that is super popular. It is good for learning, but the kids who went out of the sheep gate quickly came running back in, and my learning went out the window. Because even headphones can’t compete with that.
I started to get a little frazzled. The highly productive mompreneur in me watches the clock a lot. I like to keep track of my time blocks so I can stay on track. But I felt like I was derailing in that moment!
When I realized that pushing to try and listen to this wasn’t actually helping at all, I clicked it off and put on one of my favorite relaxing 3 hour songs. If you like lyric-less adventure music, this one is good but with a calm tone rather than fast paced.
There. Much better.
Working with What You’ve Got (And Seeing It In A Positive Light)
Even with the kids hustling and bustling about, I was able to work with my go-to song playing. Why did I try and listen to a podcast right in the middle of my in-home gladiator show down? Well, sometimes I just have to try.
Sometimes things don’t go how we want and the challenge is learning to not fight it so much but rest right where we are.
I use the word rest a lot and don’t always mean laying on the couch. In fact, when I think of rest, I rarely mean sleep or lying down, simply because I don’t really know what that looks like.
With three kids at home 24/7 and a spouse who works over the road, sleep and naps and lying down are not a frequent happening around these parts. The rest I am talking about is the kind a highly productive mompreneur like me needs to remember: It is inner rest.
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I know it gets crazy around here, but I want to stop and see how I can look at my kid-filled world in a way that brings God glory and brings my brain peace. More and more that means going slower, doing a little less than I want, and just being with them.
A book that is really helping me stop and reflect, as well as see that I am not the only writer-mom who goes through these things is called, Pressing Pause: 100 Quiet Moments for Moms to Meet with Jesus by Karen Ehman and Ruth Schwenk.
After all, the description does read, “Kids bickering? Schedule jam-packed? Dishes and laundry both piled up high? Perhaps it’s time you pressed pause.”
Can I get an amen?
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Three Ways the Highly Productive Mompreneur Can Slow Down & Connect
The struggle of a highly productive mom may be many, but the biggest one for me has always been pacing myself when it comes to work/service-related things. I have to be uber intentional about what I take on, how I run my days, and the expectations I put on myself or I always end up overdoing it.
I am hard on myself and my brain runs marathons around me. I watch it go by in circles made up of possibilities, and only when I stick my hand out to trip it up will it stop.
I have to purposely turn into my own referee and throw my hands up, making the call of, “Whoa. Hey, slow down. You just got a speed penalty!”
But wouldn’t you know it, God always places the thing you need right in front of you when you need it. And most days the very creatures I love and adore and can’t wait to let out of the sheep gate are highlighted in my mind as the very blessings to help tame the spin cycle within.
Being a child of God, wife and mom come first, and being a highly productive mompreneur can be a by-product of who I am. This is fine. But I don’t want it to be the only by-product.
I just have to stop and take stock of when I am getting it backwards, trying to push too fast, or getting frazzled. When I listen to my body, listen to the kids, and most of all listen to the Holy Spirit, I can start to look into today’s eyes and not just see work but see an opportunity to really connect.
I can welcome others into my work as well instead of keeping it all to myself.
- I can connect with my husband by asking how his day is going & ask him his opinion about a blog post.
- I can connect with my kids by offering to show them how something on my blog works (we’ve counted photo editing and coding as our schoolwork before).
- I can connect with those who will read my work by being honest and giving my best to it, even asking for input.
Don’t just connect your earbuds: connect your heart. Be vulnerable to goodness & be available to little hearts especially.
Don’t live each day wishing for the next (more opportunities to get ahead): rest in the gift of today, no matter how loud, or how many mix-matched-socks fill it.
Life is short. Let’s stop and breathe and laugh a little more. I am telling myself all this too, friend.
- Learning To Be Still When You Are Always in A Hurry
- Is It Time To Rest From The Hurry?
- Are You Too Busy & Distracted?