“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.”
– Brene Brown
The whir of the dishwasher was the only sound in the house. I glanced around. It had looked like I spent the last twenty minutes doing absolutely nothing. I knew it wasn’t true, but the laundry was soaking, the dishes were still piled up because I was running vinegar through the washer first to get the grime out, and no one — even the dog couldn’t tell if I had made a dent in the day’s chores.
Walking away, I focused on one small section in each room. I tidied the table, the floor by the fireplace where my kids most often play, and made up all the beds. I made sure the animals were fed and watered, and wiped down the counter.
Finally, I could pour my coffee.
I took a sip and sat down in front of the desktop, grabbing my pen and planner. Having the rebel personality where I need to leave myself wiggle room in my schedule to creatively switch things up — I made a hopeful itinerary for the day’s work.
This 30 minute method has been most useful, but sometimes when I write out my day’s schedule, there will be things that don’t take as long and may only need 10-15 minutes. With each thing, I write down the time I begin, and the time I will end.
I have found if I don’t give account for my time, I tend to wander in a land of make believe, but with nothing to show for it.
Unlike the chores that are in process — I tend to do all the work in my head when it comes to writing. Being a visual has its artistic perks, but I have to be diligent to structure my work day while allowing it to work for me rather than me be a slave to it. It’s taken some time to figure out how.
Any writer at any level will tell you it’s all an experiment at some point or another. For a long time I didn’t even realize I was doing most of my writing work in my head. Ideas are great but what would they come to if I never sat down to actually write out what I have mentally outlined?
3 Ways Thinkers Can Crack Down & Get To Work
- Make goals
- Set boundaries to follow through
- Allow oneself a chunk(s) in the day to let the mind creatively wander
Keeping these 3 in a healthy rhythm allows the creative thinker personality type to not feel so constrained that they have zapped all their creative strength, yet still allows the daily work (to reach the goal) to be accomplished.
I love doing nothing on purpose and gallivanting into the woods, but it was a year before I began to rewrite the fiction novel idea I had. When the same month rolled around 12 months later — God used it as a wake up call.
Hey, Meg. Remember that story I gave you that you wanted to write so terribly bad?
I wanted to write a bad story?
Well, you know. Not write it in awful prose, but you desired to write it!?!
Ahhh, yes. That one. I know, I know. Thanks, Father.
No problem. Now get to work. Love ya.
We’ve talked about writing styles here before. Carolina shared tips for writer’s on the go. None of us will have the same layout in our day — but it is really helpful to find what works best for your personality type and see if you can start molding around that. We won’t always have it perfect, but to find one’s sweet spot is a catalyst for good work ethic.
Contrary to a negative filter, it is not selfish to make decisions that will point you in the direction God is telling you to go.
How we perceive things tells us what filter we are looking through. Don’t be hard on yourself to the point you are being your own taskmaster. Or, be a master of your tasks — but have mercy on yourself. Find a way to layer your tasks so you won’t will be utterly depleted.
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